Just a few weeks ago the world lost one of the most successful DJ’s of all time, and the only explanation we got was that he was struggling with the meaning of life and happiness. The unfortunate incident has really got me thinking, how enlightened is the average person with mental illnesses such as ADHD, schizophrenia, bipolar, stress, depression, anxiety and so on. It is quite hilarious how black people, in particular, deal with these issues. To us a predicament can be categorized as either tangible or intangible; we have to deal with racism, malaria, starvation and such like issues that there’s neither energy nor time to deal with mental illnesses. Does one have to go absolutely bonkers to be rendered mentally ill?
I have been having lots of intriguing conversations this past week, and quite a number of people opened up about what they experience on a day to day basis. Anxiety is real, feeling unwanted, unloved, depressed and stressed out is actually something that should concern all of us because it affects everyone. Millenials and iGeners are more inclined towards suicide because that’s the easy way out. With too much pressure to succeed and to be happy, we even forgot what happiness and contentment look or feels like. We live in a world that harbors too much pretense and feigned truths.
I don’t know what Avicii thought when he slit his wrists; maybe it was too much, and all he needed was some quiet amidst all his fame. May he R.I.P. I know people who get anxious when lights go out, someone who gets stressed over things which will typically not upset an average person. I am concerned about guys who have schizophrenia, ADHD, but they have no idea they actually need help or rather shy away from it. Just like other health problems, mental health should be handled with uttermost care.
Did you know a new mother can suffer from Post Partum Disorder, with all these body shape standards and that she can actually hate her baby for it? Do you know OCD is a condition? Have you taken time to assume maybe Alzheimer’s is the reason why your grandma forgets things every other time? Or maybe your girlfriend is not just moody; she suffers from bipolar? How about your mate who gets terrified of very tiny things – possibly it is anxiety. Or that guy who talks big all the time doesn’t want to face reality and is constantly in a fantasy world could be schizophrenic. That slay queen who cannot live with fewer likes on her Instagram photo or who cries herself to sleep when she loses followers; maybe she just has the Histrionic personality disorder.
We handle these issues so lightly and racially profile them as, ‘white people problems.’ We barely take time to sincerely listen to what our peers are going through. Yes, it is okay not to be okay. If you are going through these issues, you are not alone. Let people love you – let someone in. I know it’s a harsh world and everyone is trying their best to be strong. I understand because I know what pain is, I know what it feels like to not be scared, unloved and unwanted. I was suicidal at age 11 and again at 19, but I survived, you can as well. Emotional intelligence and health are muscles that should often be exercised. Don’t give up; you’re not crazy.