You know some days you feel so good in your own skin,
But it’s okay if you wanna change the body that you came in
‘Cause you look greatest when you feel like a damn queen
We’re all just playing a game in a way, trying to win at life.”
– ‘Most Girls’ by Hailee Steinfield.

 Women are either too thin, or too fat, or too thick, or too dark, too light; somehow something is always never right. The worst part is that we strive so much to compare ourselves to people we see online forgetting that Photoshop exists. Most women are going over and beyond to get what they believe are ‘perfect bodies.’ This has caused some adverse effects on many others who sadly can not afford the proper services and end up with quack doctors. In a world full of Kardashians and fake accounts on social media, it is very unfortunate that most women blindly believe what they are made to see. Anyways what’s wrong with being real?

Although I believe that everyone has a right to his or her own bodies and whatever he or she so please, it is important that that decision comes from YOU; not an ad you viewed on YouTube, not a boyfriend who does not like your complexion, not your friends who think you are too fat. Whatever one may want to alter should be as a choice they make for themselves. I will say this again a woman should have the right to make decisions as to what to do with her body if you feel that you will be attractive when you have a pointy nose go ahead if the big butt is a must – rock it queen. Just do it for you. I have a problem when someone else implies that you are not perfect and you decide to run along.

One thing I do not understand is why you do not feel beautiful and adorable in the first place. We are all beautifully and wonderfully made. Unless you had an accident or something really extreme, a crazy cosmetic procedure should not be the #1 option, self-love is. It takes a lot of maturity, self-awareness, and affection for one’s self to accept themselves as they are. I won’t body shame those who don’t, I am not perfect either but here’s the thing- perfect doesn’t exist. It can be bought though, and one has to pay a hefty price for it. Plastic surgeries and cosmetic procedures are not bad, but the reasons behind it should be really worth it.

Photo of Woman Looking at the Mirror

On the other hand, pretty hurts and who are we to judge? As much as this is a visibly feminine thing, so many men are taking on cosmetic surgeries to look like Brad Pitt or Killmonger. It is just so sad to see a 12-year-old so concerned about her appearance when she’s just a child. Comparing ourselves to people we don’t even know; perfection is just an illusion, one way or another, we are all flawed. It takes courage to be yourself and to love yourself no matter what. The thing is someone will always have a tinier waist, or fuller lips or a more defined six pack, but there can only be one you, that should be your edge.

art, back view, black

Some may be extreme, and social media is a constant reminder of what happens in the event that a cosmetic procedure fails. However, if it makes you happy go for it, just make sure you can afford a proper doctor. I want everybody to feel happy and beautiful just the way they are. Natural bodies are unique, and we are all, in our modest selves, masterpieces. On the other hand, if one feels very uncomfortable (as bad as having suicidal thoughts over a body part) as they are then go ahead Queen, do what you have to! As Alessia sings, “You should know you’re beautiful just the way you are, And you don’t have to change a thing, the world could change its heart.” Be authentic, be you!


(20) Comments

  1. Gloria says:

    Great piece. Being YOU is the only way to live truly. It’s what I live by

    1. Anita says:


  2. Wanjiru Waweru Ruth says:

    And I love the song at the beginning

    1. Anita says:

      It’s one of my favorites, and the video is just something else!

  3. Fred Mwendwa says:

    Wow a great article
    Being you

    1. Anita says:

      Thanks bro

  4. Joan says:

    ‘Perfection is an illusion’ I believe that that’s true.Great piece as always.

    1. Anita says:

      Preach it sister!

  5. marggey says:

    Nice peace ..we should feel great being us not a photocopy of somebody else

    1. Anita says:

      That’s true, if we accept ourselves as we are, the whole world will.

  6. valarie says:


    1. Anita says:

      Eish Val…

  7. Zippie says:

    Beautiful read. I enjoyed reading through every bit. ??

    1. Anita says:

      Thanks for your time Zippie!

  8. Selphine says:

    indeed perfect exists not….great piece!!!

    1. Anita says:

      Thank you so much Selo!

  9. kathy says:

    the world could change its heart.” Be authentic, be you!
    I think I like the finishing line. Just amazing
    good work siz

    1. Anita says:

      Thanks love

  10. Yes! Tell these women! They need to know they’re beautiful enough! Those imperfections are what make you beautiful!

    1. Anita says:

      Thank you Dave and welcome to my blog!

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