It’s another weekend, another chance for people to vent out either how terrible or good their week has been or another opportunity to get randomly social. One thing’s for sure a couple of you might be heading for a first date somewhere. Dating is such a complex arena considering the versatility of social media and dating apps. Well, I haven’t been on a first date in about four years, but if I was, there are some questions I wouldn’t miss out on asking. These might sound corny or crazy or just realistic, but for an over-analyzing person like me, they are necessary. I realized the older we grow, the lesser looks and physique really matter, so why not establish these grounds before getting too wrapped to let go.
- Do you have a Family?
Well, ladies and gentlemen, it is vital to establish whether the person you’re on the date with is actually single? Is he or she married? Do they have kids? If the answer is along the ‘It’s complicated’ line well, I’m out. There’s nothing worse than dating someone with issues because, in the long run, you’ll end up much more emotionally twisted than they are. Additionally, I do not condone cheating or worse cheating on your partner with me.
- Do you have a criminal record?
Yes, I want to know if I am dealing with a thief, a violent person and so on. As I mentioned before, I am crazy, crazy enough to look out for myself. We have all heard of Tinder dates go wrong, and girls – especially, ending up abused or missing. Just to be safe run an online search of the person – that’s if you didn’t know them earlier, there are plenty of sites online that can give you pretty much all the information you need on someone.
- Where do you work?
This is my casual way of asking; are you broke? Nobody wants baggage. Ladies are out here being gold-diggers, and some men can’t afford to pay for a decent meal. Fact is after all the lovey-dovey, bills need to be paid, and girls want to have some fun. For the guys, don’t bite more than you can chew; you can tell if a woman is there for your wallet, the amazing food or you. For the ladies; this does not translate to ‘I can’t date a broke man’. However, if the man doesn’t have any ambition, vision or aspiration to change this, that’s a red light. Period.
- What’s your relationship with your parents?
Okay, I know this might be a little intrusive, but that’s why we’re on the date in the first place. This question helps me evaluate the mental health of the person I am dealing with. You can tell a lot about a guy from the way he talks or relates to his mother. On the other hand, some ladies with daddy issues tend to have some emotional constraints that might just creep into the relationship, later on.
- Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
I love a man with a plan, I love a man with a dream, and nothing triggers me like a man with ambition! If your date doesn’t know where they will be in 5 years, how do you expect them to know where they see themselves with you? The fact that you two are on a date shows there’s a level of interest in each other, in the event whereby this interest grows and blossoms into a relationship you have to be sure about it from the get-go.
Millennial dating is insane, but somehow we get through it. Whether you’re hooking up for some fun or searching for a lifetime commitment, it is necessary to get to know the person. We’re past asking favorite colors, likes, and dislikes. People treat you exactly how you portray yourself. First impressions matter, so do first dates! For couples, it’s also cool to reinvent these first dates once in a while. Lovely weekend guys; be authentic, be you!