Love is Patient,

Love is kind…

It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

I have heard cringe-worthy stories, I literally am scared of watching mainstream television because there isn’t a single news bulletin without a romance gone wrong’ death announcement. I find it very difficult to accept that one can love another despite the pain and constant abuse. I have been in an emotionally abusive relationship before, and I walked out right before I lost my sanity. Most say you never know till you’re in the same position. Well, for millennials and I-geners, I can only say one thing with so much love, “we are not our mothers’. This is a colloquial term I use to express the women before our empowered generations, the women who believed in everything and anything that came from a man’s existence. Sure, things have escalated in these modern days, and at least back then there was a pure line of understanding and love these days it’s crazy tinder dates and insane love-gone-sour stories.

For women in this generation, I will tell you for a fact, men have stepped up, men have become deserving of our beings, there are men who will still worship your feet even after having a child. You don’t have to let someone abuse you just to feed their ego. It is unfortunate that many say they are stuck in a relationship because of the kids, well guess what, the kids are going to grow and resent you for it. How do you explain forgiving a man who rapes your child, his own blood? How do you even come to terms with him beating you every night, not taking up responsibility, harassing and embarrassing you in front of mates? If we can’t face our demons, how are we supposed to overcome them.

No one’s perfect and love covers for it. Just because a person is in love doesn’t mean they are entirely in charge of your being. At this point, as adults, we have come to the realization that everybody is just winging it; seeking love, joy and pure bliss in simple day to day activities. When you keep letting someone trash and tramp over you and you keep accepting that is who they are, I’m sorry, but you’re gonna be Diddy’d. Especially women, we have the tendency of being overly sweet and willing, it’s somehow in our DNA, the overly motherly nature to give and give and give and we forget ourselves in the process. We forget who we are and what we actually want let alone deserve. In the name of love we have died, we have chased money and beauty to the very extremes.But what is love? Is it an endless painful endeavor that one has to keep on dying inside. Is love that difficult Letting someone misuse you over and over again and the funny part is at the back of our minds we know it’s wrong. However, we continually let this person get away with it merely because we are overly obsessed with someone wanting at least a piece of us that we are willing to be treated as nothing. You can’t change a man unless he’s in diapers. He might be what you want, but he is definitely not what you need.

We have done unbelievable things, in the name of love we have settled for second, believed that we are no good, love has dragged us through and through. I’m not sure there is any other controversial emotion such as love. Just because someone says they love you doesn’t mean that they actually do.  I know there are women too who believe in torturing their spouses for no apparent reason. Let me make it easy for you if you aren’t happy, leave. I just have once concern, when does love end? When does a person wake up and realize they don’t care anymore? Why would anyone intentionally hurt the person they love? Let’s just say love isn’t easy but true love is worth it.