At this point, I am not really sure if the term feminist befits me anymore. I am feminist who loves men and believes the world can be a whole lot better if we viewed it we were more inclined towards love than we are towards hate. Well, I am a weird person, and I love it. It’s a new week, a new chance at life and new moment to kick ass and be the very best version of yourself! My previous post had me wondering just what exactly is happening between the sexes. Growing up, I often thought life was better for the boy child, or maybe if I were a boy I would become more, have more and live way much better. In my adult years, I realized it’s not that easy, everyone has their troubles, but I must admit there are men do harbor quite some amiable character traits. Here are my top five ‘think like a man’ scenarios.
- The ‘Bro’ Code.
This is one of the most powerful bonds ever recorded in humanity. Men never break the bro code. It is quite phenomenal how males stick by each other through thick and thin. Men never ever tell on each other and they will go lengths to protect their own.
- It’s Never Personal.
‘It’s not you, it’s me’- this is the cheesiest line ever, and we all know where that came from. When a man loses his job, he doesn’t take it personally. The level of Emotional Intelligence exhibited by most men is extraordinary. If something does not turn out as planned instead of launching an emotional missile, men always ask what next? Never get too emotional and always let bygones be bygones.
- Discipline; Align Your Priorities.
How many times have you encountered a man leaving his job for a woman? Shifting his career goals to suit the better half? Close to none. Men have their priorities aligned quite well. Men’s initial instincts are protection and providence. This is a ‘think like a man’ doctrine that most women have picked this trait and it’s quite exciting watching the battle of the sexes on this one. As my close friend mentioned, “Their happiness is drawn from what they have accomplished. If he manages to keep his wife happy he will be happy. If he manages to see his business grow, he will then be happy. This is not the case for women.”
- Sex is not Love.
This seems to be something we can all agree is pretty hard for females to comprehend and has been overly manipulated by men. I recently realized that sometimes a man cheating has totally nothing with him loving his main. I am still recovering from that one. A man can have sex yet not get intimate. Read between the lines, whether you plan hard to get or not, if he wants to hit it and quit it he will. The ninety day rule does not work anymore. Ladies, lets keep an open mind on this one and remember it’s never that serious.
- Never Commit until You’re Ready.
The male fear of commitment is something I hate to love; men do not commit where they cannot deliver quite literary. If a man is not ready, he just ain’t, and nothing can make him change his mind not even your expiry date. This is a mantra that should be applied in every aspect of life. You should always come first. Remember, “It’s not you, it’s me”.