Wake up and smell the coffee…

Cover_Seal-1084I loathe quitters, but this is life not a game of chess and this means sometimes we find ourselves in tricky situations, sometimes we have to quit. Everyone has an addiction, whether to a substance or someone or just something, that’s what keeps us going in this crazy world. You need something to take your attention from reality and create an epic get away. Being young is a beautiful thing, being happy is a fulfilling emotion, being rich, well, that’s an awesome thing. Life is such an array of complexities and complicated scenarios, but inner peace should never be optional.

Domestic violence is something I do not fancy, whatever reason there may be behind your better half beating you and leaving you for dead is not reason enough. Basically, it is the heights of civilization. Funny enough, somehow everyone has had a fair chance of being in an abusive relationship; whether emotionally or physically. My worry is how can someone claim to love you yet hurt you so bad?






There are many reasons why one might decide to stay in such a baseless affair, maybe because love lost its course to obsession and even infatuation. I am yet to grasp the content of love gone sour. In this age and time, if you are incapable of reciprocating love, or rather your way of expressing love is through violent outbursts, I think its time to let go. It’s common knowledge that anger brings out honesty in a person and when someone shows you who they are, trust them the very first time.



WhatsApp Image 2018-01-26 at 02.11.43I am not going to take sides on this one…whether male or female, hurting your partner in the name of love is not right. You are worth much more than being someone’s punching court; you’re valuable, you’re worthy of heavenly affection and scarlet confessions. When you are stuck in that grey area whereby you do not know where you are not sure if you can live with or without the person remember you came into this world alone and so will you leave it. As much as this has been a repeat injustice to most women, men have also come out with regards to the same.



I know relationships are not easy, but loving someone is something natural and should not be forced. Say ‘NO’ to domestic violence, be strong enough to love yourself and walk away from anything that takes away your smile. Love is not the only component of a relationship but trust and respect as well. Whether married or  not you should not put your life on the line for someone who continually abuses you. Wake up and smell the coffee, that is not love but rays of entitlement.  Have the strength to move on, respect yourself and your kids, if you have any, to leave. Save your life, crawl if you have to but make an effort to free yourself.  Seek help,  after all everyone deserves peace of mind!



(18) Comments

  1. fred mwendwa says:

    Such an inspiring article……i like it……..
    it gets better than the previous one… …
    Congratulations girl……….?

    1. Thank you so much bro.

  2. Yes we should fight domestic violence there is nothing to be gained by women being bitten.I cannot understand what would take a relationship so far to the extend of the only discipline being bittings .Women are not asking for extraordinary treatment they are asking for one thing and one thing only RESPECT.

    1. Thanks you..don’t forget men are suffering too.

  3. Reuben says:

    Well said @anitareachel. I am really glad you’ve put it out there that domestic violence is not only physical but emotional. I have had an experience on psychological torture to a lady who thinks she is the headline of our relationship, the delicate one. hence my feelings, needs and pain are , as Uhunye put it, non issues

    1. I ma so sorry for that. I can only imagine what you went through. I am glad you had the guts to leave. I wish you all the happiness ahead.

      1. Well said Anita, this is an inspiring article.
        No to physical and emotional violence.
        Peace of mind is everything no title can outweigh it.

        1. Thank you Joy!

  4. Well said Anita, this is an inspiring article.
    No to physical and emotional violence.
    Peace of mind is everything no title can outweigh it.

  5. Gloria says:

    Nice one Anita.. Keep them coming.
    This is a wake up call to everyone.

    1. Anita says:

      Thanks Glo!

  6. Viola Obura says:

    This is an inspiring article Nitu…you keep getting better and better!

    What worries me is when both men and women in abusive relationships make excuses and try to justify the violence…and when people forget men suffer abuse too…

    keep inspiring us Anita!

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